April 30, 2012

Winners Announced!

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Thank you to everyone who stopped by to celebrate my blogiversary with me.  I can't believe it's been a year already.

And, with no further ado (cue drumroll), the winners are...



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Congratulations, Mandi and Farrah!  I will be sending an email to each of you today.


April 27, 2012

In which I stand on a soapbox and share some Instagram pics

After the week I have had, I would love to say that I couldn't be happier that it's Friday, but I'm really not.

Next week is Dan's fourth week away from us in just the past two months.  Hopefully the last.  I have multiple fingers and toes crossed on that.

Also next week, I have not one, but two customer FATs.  For the majority of you not in the pharma industry (although I know I have a couple of you!), that's when our customer comes here to test their software and equipment.  It's exhausting.  I get to see my girls less because I have to work longer and that always makes me grumpy.  Not with them.  With work.

And that's just the beginning of a summer filled with almost back to back FATs for the next three months.

I do have to toot-toot my horn a bit and then I'll stop talking about my job.

We had customers in this week for a Design Qualification.  Basically, they ask a lot of very, very specific questions and want an actual document to prove each one is accomplished by our hardware and software.

It was fun times, kids.  Better than Disneyworld.

But it also brought me some very rewarding moments.

This week, I surprised myself and most certainly the customers, with my knowledge.  I was answering questions and finding just the right reference in hundreds of pages of documentation because I know this all backwards and forwards now.

I've learned so much these past four years because it's just been me doing all the work, and it's been a lot. My "group," which consisted of only me until just last month, became one of the only profitable groups in our company, which is saying quite a bit for a start-up.

(Guess who the other profitable "group" was?  That would be my husband's, who was also a group of one until just recently.  Yes, we work together.  I know, weird.  But it works for us.  Probably because we are weird.)

Toot-toot!

Seriously, though.  I spend each day going to work and leaving my girls at home.  I don't know a working mother who doesn't sometimes question her decision to do this.  I'm the same.  Especially lately.

But then a week like this happens.

A week when I'm the lone woman among all the men, as usual.  And I prove, again and again, that I know what I'm talking about.  I do great work.  I am accomplished and smart and capable.  And yes, I'm a woman and a mother.  (This is typically surprising to my customers.  Not the woman part.  The mother part.  And usually the smart part.)

One of the reasons I go to work is because I want my girls to grow up seeing that women can do anything they want.  There are no limits.  Men do not have the corner on math and science and engineering.  Women can choose to stay home and have a rewarding career there, or we can go into the workforce and stand toe-to-toe with men.

No limits.

There have been some troubling events and commentary in our country over the past few months in regards to women's place in our society.  I have experienced moments watching the news when I wondered if we had time-traveled back a century.  As a woman and a mother to two girls, it troubles me when I see women's rights being set back rather than moved into equality with men.

I refuse to allow my girls to believe that their course in life is determined by their gender or that they are less equal than men.

I hope that I am helping to illustrate this by going to my job every day, working in a field dominated by men who tend to treat a woman with thinly veiled contempt, disbelief in her abilities and intelligence, or sometimes outright derision.  And proving every day how wrong they are in their assumptions.

It makes it a little easier to leave them every day when I believe strongly that I am making this world better for them by my leaving.

And now... we return to your regular programming and this week's highlights as captured by Instagram.

This first one isn't from this week, but I found it on Dan's camera and couldn't resist.  It's actually from Easter.



Making silly faces and then asking to see the picture.



I got this the first morning Dan stayed home with the girls this week.  He just bought this onesie this weekend.  His text with the pic was, "It didn't take me long!"  See what is written on the shirt?



I let P watch her new favorite show, Doc McStuffins, while she ate dinner one night.  I don't bother trying to talk to her when it's on; notice her intent and focused expression.

Oh, and she's licking her fingers.  Not picking her nose.  Every bit of ranch must be consumed.  I had to bribe her to eat her chicken, though, by saying she couldn't have a second helping of broccoli until she ate a piece of chicken.

Yes, you read that right.



My drive to work one morning.  I love the rain clouds coming in over the mountains.



Livie's footrest as she's sleeping.  Our three cats are all patient with the girls, but Chloe is pretty amazing.  She genuinely loves them and puts up with quite a bit from P just to get some loving from her.  She let Livie rest her foot on her for several hours and gave it an occasional lick.



On our way to the park.  Ensemble selected by Paityn.



Swinging.  Her absolute favorite thing to do.  Livie quite enjoyed watching.



Paityn played outside by herself for a little while last night.  I was so impressed.  Of course, she was joined by Funny Bunny Pete, her favorite imaginary friend.  After some time, she came to the door and said through the screen, "Mama, Funny Bunny Pete says he's ready to come in.  He wants a snack and Doc McStuffins."



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April 23, 2012

Why I smile

No words today... just my little loves.








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 then, she {snapped}



April 18, 2012

*Giveaway* Celebrate my blogiversary with me!

One year ago Friday, I started writing this blog.

Paityn was only a year old.

Olivia was still just a dream.

I had no idea what I was doing or if people would read it or if I would run out of things to talk about.

Ok, scratch that last one.  I'm never at a loss for things to talk about.  

I've had so much fun this past year.

I've loved learning new things.

I've loved getting to meet other bloggers, and many of you are friends to me even though we've never met in real life.

I've loved sharing our story and reading so many other stories, too.

And now... for the presents!

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Paityn and I love reading together.  In the spirit of this blog and the passion behind it, my inspiration for the giveaway is my children.

I'm giving away two sets of some of Paityn's favorite books.  We own and have enjoyed all of these books.  There's even a set in here that we are now reading to Olivia.  I truly believe you can never start reading to your children too early.

When the two winners are randomly selected, they may choose one of the book set selections listed below.  


Baby Book Set
(Soft Books) 

 
Toddler Book Set
(Board Books)

Pre-Schooler Book Set
 (Paperbacks)


Adoption/Foster Book Set
(One Hardcover, One Paperback)

God Found Us You 

Read To Me Set
(One Hardcover, One Paperback)
 
The Little Prince
The Wind in The Willows


Excited?  Me too!  So start entering!  And may the odds be ever in your favor.

(Due to the mommy nature of my blog, and it's inherent G-rating, I figured that's the only chance I will ever have to use that reference.)



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The contest ends on April 30.  I will post the winners soon after.  If you don't leave an email address for me to contact you, please be sure to check back.

I'm very sorry, but this giveaway is only open to US residents.  Winners will be required to provide me with a shipping address via email as I will be shipping these directly from Amazon.

This is a completely non-sponsored giveaway, unless you count my own little wallet as a sponsor.  Or my Visa card.  Neither Amazon nor the book authors nor the publishers know anything of this giveaway or, sadly, of my blog.  These books are Paityn approved.  I love my readers and simply wanted to share in the celebration of this milestone!

Feed the birds... or not

Last night, I took P out into the backyard to feed the birds some stale bread.  Of course, it wouldn't have been stale if I had properly taken care of it, but my laziness is the bird's gain.


Getting the bread ready.





Come down and eat!  I have bread!  (Said the spider to the fly.)



 No thanks, Kid.  I'm fine.



Are you sure?



 Yep.




And end of patience.



A little fuzzy, but I love her expression.







She was a bit disappointed, but the birds weren't.  I saw them making quick work of the bread once the noisy little girl who so kindly brought it out to them had gone inside and to bed.

Ungrateful little runts.

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April 17, 2012

In which I bow to peer pressure and join the Ultimate Blog Party

I'm not one for big parties; I always end up feeling a wee bit uncomfortable and left out.  I'm much more outgoing on paper.. or screen... than I am in person.

I know, shocking revelation, right?  But it's too true.  I'm a bit of a wall flower at massive social gatherings.  Although, if there's dancing, you can count on me to get my boogy on like nobody's business even if I'm dancing with myself.

Well, there's nothing to lose and there's nothing to prove.

But since the Ultimate Blog Party is an online party, I decided to join in and leave my real-life wallflower behind.  Besides, I love reading blogs (I read far too many), and this is a great way to add some more to my list.



I just wrote my About me page a couple weeks and I'm pretty darn proud of it (for the moment).  So please, if you are just stopping by and really curious to know me, then check it out.  There's a whole bunch of pictures of me.

I'm not usually so narcissistic, but it's almost illegal to have an About page with no pictures of oneself.  You will find that pictures of me in this blog are pretty rare.  Almost as rare as pink unicorns.  I usually post pictures of my far more darling and photogenic children.

I'm also almost always the person behind the camera.   Amateur would be exaggerating my photography skills, but I do enjoy taking several hundred pictures and getting three or four really good ones to share.

Most of the pictures of me are taken by my husband with his iPhone.  He has a penchant for taking pictures of me at my most unflattering (first thing in the morning, sleeping with drool dripping from my wide open mouth, or dressed in my holiest of sweatpants) and then rapturously proclaiming how beautiful I look.

True love in action, folks.

I adore him for it.  But I still won't share those pictures widely.  Sometimes not even with family or friends.



I started this blog to share about raising my daughter, Paityn.  I'm sure every mother can relate to the amazing change that comes over your life when you become a parent.  Suddenly, your world revolves around this little person.



I also love to write.  I work in the biotech industry as a Validation Manager (click for the wiki definition of some of what I do, but fair warning, it might bore you into a coma) and although I write a lot of technical documents, creative writing isn't too common.  I sometimes get creative in my emails to customers, but only if they have shown the rare appreciation for my quirky sense of humor.

So, in addition to sharing my journey as a mother, this blog has become my writing outlet.  I love writing posts that move people; it's one of my chief motivators when writing a post.  If I get a comment that I made someone cry, don't be offended if I reply back, "I'm sorry... but also not."

On of my most personal posts is a actually a series that chronicles Our Adoption Story.  In January, we brought home Olivia to complete our little family.  My blog is primarily just about being a mother, but since our adoption, I also often share posts to help others learn more about what it's like to add to your family in this way.


I work.  I'm a wife.  I love french fries and chocolate, sometimes even together.  I read just about anything. (I'm still looking for a support group for people who get halfway through a book, hate it, but feel compelled to finish anyway.) I love to travel with my family.  I love the beach but hate to wear a swimsuit so our current residence near San Francisco's chilly beaches suits me just fine.

But above all, I love my girls.  I'm a mama.  And I love sharing that common but unique journey. 

Thanks for stopping by!  Pop over here to enter my giveaway for a set of children's books!

Our Adoption Story: Coming Home


 However motherhood comes to you, it's a miracle.

~Valerie Harper



This is the conclusion of Our Adoption Story.  If you missed the beginning, you can start here with "I Always Knew."   

Although this is the end of this story, it is really only the beginning of another. The beginning of Olivia's life with us as well as our family building a relationship with her other parents.  We are so thankful that our daughter came to us in this special way, and we hope that sharing our story will help normalize open adoptions and foster respect not just for adoptive families but also for first parents.  Olivia has two sets of parents, and she is blessed beyond measure with double the amount of love.



It was still so unbelievable to us.

In those minutes of nursing Livie in the hospital, I sat in awe of this new little life.  I studied her face, memorizing her little features that were so very new.

All too soon, it was time for us to leave.  I have never done anything so hard as to leave her that night.  I longed to stay with her.  I had held Paityn all night long the night she was born, so it was excruciating for me go.  But this time rightfully belonged to her mother. 

We came home to an excited little girl who was waiting eagerly to see pictures and hear all about her new baby sister. Paityn looked at the pictures on my phone over and over again, in awe of this little sister she had yet to meet.

I was so afraid to sleep that night; I worried that I would wake up in the morning only to discover this had all been a beautiful dream.

I sometimes still feel that way.

When I arrived at the hospital the next day, I was so excited to name the baby.  At her parents request, Dan and I had picked her name.  But we hoped her other parents would choose between two we liked.  They decided on "Olivia," which is perfect for her.  It's origin is "olive tree."  In the Bible, the olive tree is a symbol of peace.

Olivia brought peace to our longing hearts.

And I hope that her first parents found peace in their decision to place her in our family.

As the day wore on, our shared joy for Olivia's birth was diverging into two very different sets of emotions.  Adoption is a mixture of so many feelings.  One set of parents is experiencing amazing joy while at the same time, the other parents are experiencing heartbreaking sadness.

I don't think it is possible for any adoptive parents with any kind of compassion not to experience conflicting emotions.  Dan and I tried to have as much compassion as possible while at the same time reminding each other that we could not be a source of healing for this couple.  We would be going home with their baby; our sympathies could only go so far in helping them.  Too much on our part would only cause them further pain, not healing.

But, oh, it was so hard to hold back!  It must be the mama in me that longed so deeply to make their pain go away.

When it was time for the parents to say goodbye to Olivia, I walked out into the hallway and fought to hold back the tears.

I swear I could hear her mother's heart breaking.

Dan joined me and we waited in the hall for a time, hands clasped.  It was a bittersweet moment.  We returned when Olivia's father came to get us.

I have never witnessed greater pain.  Or greater  love.  They mingled together in an incredible sacrifice.

Words to a song ran through my mind...

This isn’t easy.  This isn’t clear.  And you don’t need Jesus til you’re here.  Then confusion and the doubts you had up and walk away. They walk away. When a heart breaks.

Livie's mother set her gently down.  And they quickly walked away.

I fought the urge to run after them and instead went to Olivia.  I picked her up and held her tightly in my arms.  My daughter.  But the daughter of another mother, too.  One whose deep sadness was stark counterpoint to my joy.

There was a sudden flood of conflicting emotions that poured over us so quickly we hardly knew how to handle it.

Happiness.  Guilt.  Relief.  Sadness.  Joy.  Grief.  A dream come true.

Tears streamed down my face.  Sitting on the couch, I whispered to Olivia how much her parents loved her.  I used the words "mom" and "dad," and I wasn't talking about Dan and I.  She has been blessed with another mother and father who love her so very much. They came to this decision not lightly and not easily.  And I couldn't imagine the pain it must be causing them to follow through with the decision to let her go.

I told Livie that I hoped that somehow, she would be able to know at least the feeling of this memory if not the memory itself.  The moments when the woman who gave her life held her tightly and whispered what I imagined were words of lifelong love.  I whispered to Livie that she had two mamas and two papas.  And this will never change.

They loved her enough to put her down and walk away.  To see their way out through the tears and the pain.  To do what they thought was best for their baby.

I prayed that they would find peace.  I prayed for Olivia that I would be able to help her through this transition.  I grieved for her loss at only a day old.  I thanked God that we all found each other, Livie's first parents and Dan and I.  I believed that there must be a reason we were here in this brokenness..  I thanked him for bringing us together; for helping us find each other in this big world.  

Then, I wiped away my tears.  Dan had left to get the car.  Paityn was still up and eagerly waiting to meet her new sister.

I smiled down at Livie.  The sadness melted away and joy crept back into it's rightful place.  "Let's go home, little one."



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April 13, 2012

Easter memories

This past weekend, we went to the same Easter Egg Hunt we attended last year.

It was crowded and a wee bit crazy last year.

It was incredibly crowded and bordering on  insanity this year.  The parents even booed at the volunteers when one of the egg hunts didn't start on time.

Yes, you read that right.  Volunteers at a child's Easter egg hunt were booed.

Happy Easter to one and all.  And a bah humbug!

I learned my lesson from last year and took it all in stride.  It is one of the downfalls, I believe, of living in such a highly populated area.  We have so many great activities to choose from, which is wonderful, but there are hundreds of other parents choosing those same activities, too, which is not so wonderful.

I'm linking up today with Project Alicia.  She is hosting a six-week link up series aimed at capturing the beauty of spring.  This week's prompt was Easter/Eggs.

My intention in joining this linkup was to improve my photography. But then I saw the craziness of the day and decided my nice DSLR camera would stay safely in its bag.  Really, I had my hands full protecting helping Paityn.

It also could not possibly have been any sunnier and it was high noon.  This does not make for good pictures.

Ah, well.  When it comes down to it, I believe the best photos are those which capture memories, regardless of quality.



Look out behind you, it's the Mongolian Hoards!  Disguised as two year olds.  Very clever, Hoard.  







 The Dunsmuir Hellman Mansion in Oakland





Identical expressions.





They had all kinds of animals there.  P wasn't sure what to think of the lizard at first, but after I pet it a bit, she gave it a go.

 
 Our backyard Easter Egg Hunt.  P decided to fill an egg with dirt for mama.  So... sweet.  It's always the thought that counts.  I'm not sure what the thought was behind the dirt, but sweet, nonetheless.


There's my little Livie!  She slept through the egg hunt, woke to eat, then went back to sleep.  She did later approve of her bunny from her Easter basket.

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April 11, 2012

Because being a mama is sick time and cuddles

It has been a sick day in our house today.  P caught the flu and for only the third time in her life, tossed her cookies.  Poor little love, I'm trying to be funny about it, but it really wasn't.  She has no recollection of being sick before with anything more than a cold, so it was very frightening for her.

I wasn't feeling particularly peachy, either, so I gave her a dose of tylenol for her fever then tucked her into bed.  I promptly crawled in with her and passed out.  Poor Dan was left to manage Livie most of the night, and by the early morning hours, she was wailing for Mama. 

I took over with Livie and she sighed immensely in relief and told me how great Papa is to play with but how much she misses Mama for cuddling. 

All right, so maybe not in words, but it was all there in her expression. And the way she passed out 30 seconds later and slept like a log for two hours in my arms.

I'm grateful to have a job where I can be here for my girls when they are sick.  When their nanny called to tell me P had a fever, I immediately came home.  The relief in Paityn's eyes when she saw me made me melt.  This morning, P was quite chipper and seemed just fine.  But shortly before I left for work, she began winding down again and her fever spiked.

Do you remember how that was when you were little?  You'd be sick, then you'd feel awesome and be bouncing off the walls, then you were suddenly feeling quite sick again.

I asked P if she wanted me to stay home.  "All you have to do is ask, Lovey, and I'll stay here with you."

She whispered, while looking up at me with those big eyes, "Stay home."

And so I did.

I do feel as if I've had my fill of the Mickey Mouse Clubhouse and Doc McStuffins.  I must have watched at least 10 hours of those shows between yesterday and today. 

I have to admit, though, that I'm thoroughly enjoying Doc, which is a new Disney Junior show.  It's right up there with Handy Manny in terms of watchability for adults. 

Everyone is much better now, so I decided to get some work done.  But before I can settle down to work, I simply have to share a few pictures from last week.  Today being Wordless Wednesday and all.

By the way, you might have noticed that I have completely given up on being wordless in my Wordless Wednesday posts.  I just love talking to you way too much to miss an opportunity.  I feel like if you are stopping by my little blog to catch up, then the least I can do is offer you a bit of friendly conversation.

You can even join us for breakfast.



The company is excellent.






We can be quite silly around here.



But we always manage to find something interesting to do.



 And we always find a reason to smile.




So stop by anytime.  I hope you'll do so often.  I love visiting with you.


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